There is no “right” way to feel.
A couple weeks back, my grandfather passed away. And while there was lots of love, and sadness, the feelings and reactions of family and friends were varied.
Some were balling while others remained outwardly unfazed.
I used to judge people for either over- or under- reacting to a situation.
There was a range of acceptable emotional responses, anything that fell outside of that range was inappropriate.
I used to think that losing a match or failing a test required a certain emotional and physical reaction.
I would throw my headgear or hang my head.
When I didn’t feel upset after one of these instances, I felt guilty, or worse, like there was something wrong with me.
One of my coaches and close friend once told me, “There is no right way to feel, Otterbox. However you feel, is right”
The next time you feel embarrassed for crying at a movie, or not crying a funeral, consider that people respond differently to situations.
There is no universally “right” emotional response to a situation.