To follow up on “That’s Weird,” I wanted to offer some advice on how to combat the hasty dismissal of something that you believe is cool.
If you hear “that’s weird” it’s important to understand that you decide what’s cool.
Our perception of what’s cool and what’s weird is shaped by others’ opinions. But what if you could decide what is cool, independently?
Often what is labeled as weird is only labeled as such because the actor lacks confidence in his or her actions.
Conviction in your actions gives you control over how your actions are perceived.
Short anecdote: I was homeschooled growing up. From first to sixth grade I did not attend a traditional school. Instead my mom and dad facilitated an environment where I could learn and pursue personal interests.
During this time, I had many interests, but developed two loves: bird watching and wrestling.
Both bird watching and wrestling had components that made them weird. Bird watching is a sport of the retired and wrestling is a sport of scantily-clad boys engaging in an easily-mocked dance.
However, I didn’t see either of these activities as weird, and I threw myself head-first into both activities.
The most important lesson that I learned from homeschooling was a lesson that I had missed.
I missed the day when the popular kids dolled out decrees of socially permissible activities.
I missed the tutorial on how to be cool, but gained something else.
By the time I did enter school as a sixth grader, I was so confident that birdwatching and wrestling were cool that I was able to trick others into thinking they were cool too. I created a birdwatching club and recruited many of my friends to the wrestling team.
By missing the lesson on what cool activities looked like, I learned two related lessons: being cool is subjective and you can control this subjectivity.
If you think something is cool, and pursue your interest with unapologetically, no one will know that your chosen activity isn’t cool.
Being confident in your actions is the only distinguishing factor between what is seen as weird and what is seen as cool.
You decide what’s cool.